If we look at our utmost inner desire, we can see that our dreams are not so different. We all share ONE common goal: Happiness for ourselves and the people we love.
More than a century ago, Helen Keller wrote: “To me, the only satisfactory definition of happiness is wholeness.” Drawing on Keller’s words, I describe happiness as the experience of “wholebeing”, the wellbeing of the whole person. This means acknowledging that we each live within three worlds: the inner world of the mind, the world of the physical body, and the world outside which we call nature.
Some people enjoy their lives no matter what happens, while others cannot find happiness regardless of what they do and how hard they try; most of us fall somewhere in between. The difference in people’s lives is not what they face is what they do with what they face. I believe that Happiness is not a goal in itself but rather the by-product of a well-lived life. Regardless of what a well-lived life means to you, I trust that one of the most crucial elements to living well is to have SPIRE mastery.
Based on the latest neuroscience and positive psychology research, FIVE elements of wellbeing that make us whole could potentially lead to happiness and form the acronym SPIRE.
SPIRE focuses on the whole person, encompassing spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, and emotional wellbeing. Happiness becomes thus multi-dimensional. By considering each element, you can enhance your wellbeing in everyday life, especially in the face of adversity.
“S” of SPIRE, Spiritual Wellbeing refers to the importance of finding a sense of purpose and meaning in life and elevating ordinary experiences into extraordinary ones through mindful presence.
A sense of meaning and purpose stems from belonging to and serving something bigger than yourself. There are various ways to enable a sense of meaning, such as religion, family, science, politics, work, community, social causes, gratitude practices, etc.
To make life and work more enjoyable regardless of your circumstances, you must actively seek and create meaning and pleasure in whatever you do because creating the right conditions in life or at work lies within you. In addition, being mindful and savoring life in the present moment is another way to enhance your spiritual wellbeing.
“P” of SPIRE – Physical Wellbeing: Our psychological and physical entities are connected and interdependent; happiness is not conditional on either the mind or the body, but rather on both. This includes taking care of your body balance, energy management, physical activity, stress management, sleep, and nutrition.
“I” of SPIRE: Intellectual Wellbeing refers to engaging in deep meaning and opening to new experiences. You must engage in activities that support your learning and growth. Everyone is different, and we all enjoy different things, whether playing an instrument, playing a sport, dancing, working on an exciting project, or even adopting a hobby. Think about subjects that fascinate you, skills you want to build, read, listen to a podcast, take a webinar or seek out mentors or experts from whom you can learn more.
“R” of SPIRE: Relational Wellbeing refers to nurturing healthy connections with others and oneself
Relationships are fundamental to wellbeing, and the number one predictor of happiness is the quantity and quality of time you spend with people you care about and those who care about you. Humans are social beings that strive for connection, love, and intimacy. Building positive relationships with your parents, siblings, peers, and friends enables your capacity for love, compassion, kindness, empathy, teamwork, cooperation, self-sacrifice, etc. Having solid relationships gives you support in difficult times. Moreover, cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself is essential to enjoy healthy relationships with others.
“E” of SPIRE: Emotional Wellbeing refers to feeling all emotions and reaching towards resilience and optimism
“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” — Oscar Wilde said that, and he is right.
Using and enjoying your emotions means allowing yourself to be human and experience the full extent of human emotions. So please stop trying to be happy, always thinking it would be the best way to deny or push away what you might be feeling now. Bending your feelings to meet others’ and society’s expectations is not a sign of strength. Just allow yourself to truly feel and connect with your emotions; it makes you more human and aware that vulnerability is power.
Incorporating the SPIRE elements supports you in reaching higher levels of wholebeing. I believe true happiness is a choice that resides within each of us. Our mindset, perspective of the world, actions, and thoughts impact our overall happiness level.
• To truly live a happy life, here are some final tips:
• Be in total alignment with your values.
• Follow your passions and do what you love.
• Improve your relationships.
• Always live in appreciation and gratitude.
• Love yourself and accept your body.
• Grow your mind.
and lastly,
• Embrace life at every moment.
Cheers to your happiness!
