Has anyone ever praised you for being white-hearted?
Or, have you ever been accused of being black-hearted?
In both cases, positively or negatively, justly or unfairly, you have been “labeled”.
Since ever, the world has given itself the right to define you, based on your actions or your reactions; sometimes, based on your gender, your roots, or your color; even your name or your surname. In other words, every area of your outer self could be an easy target for misinterpretation.
Think about it. How often have you met someone willing to allocate enough time to get to know you without rushing into assumptions by solely considering your background?
Sadly, not so many, or maybe none.
You might feel sometimes as if you are walking around, hanging this label above your head, or maybe having it carved on your forehead.
Prejudging people and defining them – either based on what we’ve heard and what we’ve seen, or based on several past incidents that might have happened within or beyond their control – couldn’t be more painful, harmful, and distressful for their emotional and physical wellbeing, eventually affecting their entire life.
Most of us forget that humans have the gift of evolving during their life journey. Our behaviors are directly influenced by our thoughts and feelings. This simple fact is proof that any person can develop and improve the quality of their life. We indeed mess up, make mistakes, and face failures. But it is also true that while cleaning this mess, we learn, we grow wiser, and we eventually prevail.
It is our right not to be perfect; it is our right to be humans.
To say the truth, our life experiences and our daily challenges are the mothers of all learning. They enable us to contribute to this world more genuinely and to serve our community more efficiently.
On a side note, it is worth mentioning that positive labeling can also have negative consequences.
By defining people as “not worthy”, we destroy their self-esteem; and by defining them as “superheroes”, we deprive them of any chance to be vulnerable, weak, or in need of support.
We all have the right to experience ups and downs.
We all have the right to be imperfect.
We all have the right to seek help, support, and care.
No one is either “white-hearted” or “black-hearted” at all times.
For a Rainbow to form and be seen, you’ll need two ingredients: A Dash of Sunlight and Drops of Water.
The same concept applies to us as human beings. We grow into our best version once we learn how to cultivate beauty out of misery, and find light in the darkness. Potentially, we can all be blessed with “Rainbow Hearts”. The key is to keep on refining instead of defining ourselves.
So, always remember that:
- No matter what image your “outer self” showed to the world, it is only your “Inner Self” that counts, because it is the place that holds your values, your authenticity, your true identity.
- Stop labeling yourself in conformity with this world.
- Take time to learn, understand, accept, and embrace the person you are. Then, make sure to share your uniqueness out there.
Each one of us has a unique power. The only difference is that some of us have already got the chance to prove it, while others are still in the process of discovering it…
We are truly blessed for being perfectly imperfect!
